🌟 Still Standing:
How to Thrive as a Leader Without Burning Out 🌟
Dear future leaders ! 👋
Are you tired of the endless hustle, the sleepless nights, and the pressure to always be "on"? What if I told you there’s a better way?
Cherry Rose Tan’s book, Still Standing: What It Takes to Thrive and Innovate in a Messy World, is a game-changer for leaders like you. Let’s dive into the key takeaways-and how you can apply them today! 🚀
🔥 The Big Idea: #REALTALK
At the heart of the book is #REALTALK-a movement to destigmatize mental health in the workplace and help leaders thrive. Cherry’s brother, Keane, died from overwork, sparking her mission to create a space where leaders can be honest about their struggles.
💡 Key Lesson: Leadership isn’t about pretending to have it all together. It’s about courageous conversations-with yourself, your team, and the world.
🧠 The 3 Conversations You NEED to Have
1️⃣ #REALTALK with Me (Mind/Thoughts)
Focus: Your inner world.
· Stability: "Stability is a state of mind, not a destination." �
o Try the Wheel of Life exercise (rate Health, Career, Love, etc. from 1-10). Where are you neglecting yourself?
· Integrity: Align your words and actions. Broken integrity = anxiety and imposter syndrome. 😣
· Workability: Ask, "What’s working? What’s not?" High performers quit the right things at the right time. 🎯
2️⃣ #REALTALK with You (Heart/Emotions)
Focus: Your relationships.
· Awareness: Label your emotions (e.g., "I’m not angry-I’m hurt"). 🎨
· Compassion: Set boundaries ("Hell Yes or No"). Don’t take on others’ pain. 🛑
The "Hell Yes or No" rule is a simple but powerful way to set boundaries:
· If something isn’t a "HELL YES!" (exciting, aligned, or truly important), it’s a "No."
· No more "maybe," "I guess," or "I should."
· Forgiveness: Let go of resentment. It’s not about the past-it’s about freeing your future. 🌈
3️⃣ #REALTALK with Us (Will/Actions)
Focus: Your impact on the world.
· Identity: Own your story. What makes you “you” i.e. your originality? 🌍
· Reclamation: Channel anger into action. Rock the boat! ⚡
· Sovereignty: Build a Circle of Teachers (mentors, coaches). No more "lone wolf" leadership. 🐺➡️🤝
💥 Fun Facts & Quick Wins
· Fear vs. Danger: Your brain often mislabels stress as "danger." Pause and ask: Is this life-threatening, or just uncomfortable? 🧐
· The Drama Triangle: Stuck in Victim/Rescuer/Persecutor mode? Shift to Creator/Coach/Challenger for healthier dynamics. 🔄
· Men’s Mental Health: 1 in 4 men struggle in silence. Let’s normalize vulnerability. 💙
🚀 Your Call to Action
Ready to ditch burnout and lead with authenticity? Here’s your challenge:
1. Take the Wheel of Life quiz today. (Grab a pen and paper-it’s 5 minutes!)
2. Share one #REALTALK moment with a colleague. ("Hey, I’ve been feeling ___. How about you?")
3. Tag a leader who needs this book! 📚
💬 Comment below: Which conversation (#REALTALK with Me/You/Us) do you struggle with most? Let’s chat! 👇
✨ "Leadership isn’t about surviving the storm-it’s about learning to dance in the rain." - Cherry Rose Tan
P.S. Want more? Subscribe to my substack newsletter for another meaningful book review.