π Still Standing:
How to Thrive as a Leader Without Burning Out π
Dear future leaders ! π
Are you tired of the endless hustle, the sleepless nights, and the pressure to always be "on"? What if I told you thereβs a better way?
Cherry Rose Tanβs book, Still Standing: What It Takes to Thrive and Innovate in a Messy World, is a game-changer for leaders like you. Letβs dive into the key takeaways-and how you can apply them today! π
π₯ The Big Idea: #REALTALK
At the heart of the book is #REALTALK-a movement to destigmatize mental health in the workplace and help leaders thrive. Cherryβs brother, Keane, died from overwork, sparking her mission to create a space where leaders can be honest about their struggles.
π‘ Key Lesson: Leadership isnβt about pretending to have it all together. Itβs about courageous conversations-with yourself, your team, and the world.
π§ The 3 Conversations You NEED to Have
1οΈβ£ #REALTALK with Me (Mind/Thoughts)
Focus: Your inner world.
Β· Stability: "Stability is a state of mind, not a destination." οΏ½
o Try the Wheel of Life exercise (rate Health, Career, Love, etc. from 1-10). Where are you neglecting yourself?
Β· Integrity: Align your words and actions. Broken integrity = anxiety and imposter syndrome. π£
Β· Workability: Ask, "Whatβs working? Whatβs not?" High performers quit the right things at the right time. π―
2οΈβ£ #REALTALK with You (Heart/Emotions)
Focus: Your relationships.
Β· Awareness: Label your emotions (e.g., "Iβm not angry-Iβm hurt"). π¨
Β· Compassion: Set boundaries ("Hell Yes or No"). Donβt take on othersβ pain. π
The "Hell Yes or No" rule is a simple but powerful way to set boundaries:
Β· If something isnβt a "HELL YES!" (exciting, aligned, or truly important), itβs a "No."
Β· No more "maybe," "I guess," or "I should."
Β· Forgiveness: Let go of resentment. Itβs not about the past-itβs about freeing your future. π
3οΈβ£ #REALTALK with Us (Will/Actions)
Focus: Your impact on the world.
Β· Identity: Own your story. What makes you βyouβ i.e. your originality? π
Β· Reclamation: Channel anger into action. Rock the boat! β‘
Β· Sovereignty: Build a Circle of Teachers (mentors, coaches). No more "lone wolf" leadership. πΊβ‘οΈπ€
π₯ Fun Facts & Quick Wins
Β· Fear vs. Danger: Your brain often mislabels stress as "danger." Pause and ask: Is this life-threatening, or just uncomfortable? π§
Β· The Drama Triangle: Stuck in Victim/Rescuer/Persecutor mode? Shift to Creator/Coach/Challenger for healthier dynamics. π
Β· Menβs Mental Health: 1 in 4 men struggle in silence. Letβs normalize vulnerability. π
π Your Call to Action
Ready to ditch burnout and lead with authenticity? Hereβs your challenge:
1. Take the Wheel of Life quiz today. (Grab a pen and paper-itβs 5 minutes!)
2. Share one #REALTALK moment with a colleague. ("Hey, Iβve been feeling ___. How about you?")
3. Tag a leader who needs this book! π
π¬ Comment below: Which conversation (#REALTALK with Me/You/Us) do you struggle with most? Letβs chat! π
β¨ "Leadership isnβt about surviving the storm-itβs about learning to dance in the rain." - Cherry Rose Tan
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